Quoting 2 California house church leaders:
Over the years we witnessed the disastrous results of ignoring wrongdoing or secretly hiding it. We lived in a small urban community with several people, one of whom was a single man who had fallen in love with a married woman in our group. Some of us tried to tackle their affair by talking with them separately about it. Yet no one dared to bring it out in the open ... We convinced ourselves that confrontation would not only add to hteir sense of shame and self-condemnation, but also perpetuate the cycle of failure. In the end we tried to forgive their shortcomings and avoided talking about them any further. Now we see that this so-called compassion only perpetuated the problem ...
Source: Johann Christoph Arnold - Why Forgive?, pp.166-167