To make matters worse, some people claim that when a victim forgives an abuser, he is implying that he - the victim- is at least partly to blame. Nothing, of course, could be further from the truth. Forgiveness is necessary simply because both victim and victimizer - who in most cases know one another (or are even related) - are prisoners of a shared darkness in whcih both will remain bound until someone opens the door. Forgiveness is the only way out, and even if an abuser chooses to remain in the darkness, that should not hold the victim back.
Source: Johann Christoph Arnold - Why Forgive?, pp.136-137
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